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Permalink Reply by Sara Catherine Blaise on July 30, 2014 at 7:52pm

Hello, Wanda … I don't have an answer for you, but I'm sure someone does. I just want to say I hope you find peace with this conundrum. 

Permalink Reply by Wanda Merrill on July 31, 2014 at 1:52am

Sara, Thank you so much for your kind  words. 

Permalink Reply by Sara Catherine Blaise on July 31, 2014 at 9:24am

The departed come to me in dreams and in that half-light between dream and vision. Their message is always the same: we made it; we're ok. For me, all my departed ones have 4 legs. In the beginning, I would feel so left behind, but I grew to learn to remember them rather than miss them. This practice has helped assuage a lot of "painful" memories into joyful remembrance. 

And remember this: they may be gone, but they are everywhere.

Much solace to you. 

Permalink Reply by Trancendant on July 30, 2014 at 10:10pm

As always Wholeness, Balance, Vibrance

Welcome to the resistance :)

This made me think of an answer to a problem of my own and perhaps an analogy would help?? I began meditating about a month and a half ago and for such a long time I was making progress. It was very encouraging but recently I've kind of hit the wall and yesterday I realized the reasons I want what I sought from meditation outweigh any length of time needed to see them. That gave me an internal fire :) One of the things I remember talking to my friend about is that with almost every understanding there is an inflection of equal value, so then what I realized with mine is that the fire didn't come from being patient, it came from "letting go" of the severity encompassing the want. Now, I don't think about wanting the benefits of meditation, yet I feel them :) Please be understanding with what I'm saying next. He has passed and in the existence he has now, if you think of him too frequently with a very deep sense of connection, you create it. Which keeps him here. Maybe what you should do is not "forget" or "let him go", but be ready to. Work up within yourself to be ready to. I'm sorry for your loss, I wish you success and transcendance. I hope you find inner peace of mind.

As always Wholeness, Balance, Vibrance :)

Permalink Reply by Wanda Merrill on July 31, 2014 at 1:46am

Thank you so very much Joshua!

Wow... Believe it or not, I totally understood your analogy and when I was able to give deeper thought to what you said. Quickly the answers came to me... My husband wants me to move on with my life. To continue thinking of him. Longing for the different aspects of the life we shared together does indeed keep him here... I believe now the reason he is standoffish is because if he were to be too welcoming... I would never move on.. I would continually and intentionally try to meet him in my dream state.. thus.. holding him back and myself... I completely get it now.. Joshua. I can't tell you how much I truly appreciate the time you took to deliver to me that message. Clarity came with it. Thanks again.  YOU ARE AWESOME!! 

Permalink Reply by Trancendant on July 31, 2014 at 12:28pm

Wow you're so welcome!! I'm really glad I could help, it brings me a lot of joy reading your response!! :)

As always Wholeness, Balance, Vibrance

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Permalink Reply by Karuna 2000 on July 31, 2014 at 6:30am

Hi Wanda,

I also lost my child last year and we meet in dreams a lot. I will be more than happy to talk to you and try to explain some mechanics and ways the souls on the other side communicate, too long to post it now. Not sure if you can send me a private message here but try (or post a reply). I hope you are doing fine.

Namaste,

Karuna