The brain has a plastic quality, reforming its pathways to what it experiences. Bashar would tell you this takes 15 minutes on average.

If you have no reference point, this video can help explain why things are not yet open to you.

When you gain or create a reference (create removes the victim mentality), you can then perceive/interact with it, as long as you manifest three times the same.

See Bashar for teachings on this. 3 is this dimensions manifestation Father-Mother-Son, 3d. The first time the situation will be fresh, the second time the situation (may) appear exactly the same, (like you had no effect) the third will be the perception you have moved towards, to then interact with it as you would prefer.